We have all heard of horrifying stories about mothers and daughter-in-law’s conflict. Some cases end up in courts.
Radio presenter Jalang’o has come out to highlight the cause of conflicts between mothers and daughters in law.
Speaking during his Radio show after he was asked by his co-host Alex Mwakideu why some mothers in law are problematic, Jala’s said that there are many reasons which contribute to hostile behavior.
Adding that one of the reasons is that the parents want to protect their generation.
“Sana sana hizi hufanyika ,kwa wengi ambao ni vijana peke yao nyumbani, so wazazi wake wanamtakikia kila kitu iende sawa wazazi wake waamchunga na wanataka kila kitu ende sawa wanachuja wanawake ili generation yao itasonga mbele,”he said.
“Kwake ndio wameweka kila kitu ndio generation ya mzee ieendele so lazima apate msichana mzuri ambaye atamzalia watoto wazuri ili waendeleshe iyo generation.”
The second reason why some mothers in law cause trouble for their son’s wife is because of the love they have for their sons especially the mama’s boy.
Adding that all his life revolves on his mother and he depends on her to make marital decisions for him.
“Mama’s boy yeye kila kitu anaenda kustaki bibi yake kwa mamake chechote bibi yake anafanya anaambia mama yake hawezi deal na bibi yake wamalizane hawana time ya kuka chini na kudeal nna issues zao kila kitu wanadiscuss anaambia mamake,”he explained.
“Story zake zote ni about his mum…ooh my mum used to do this ,this is the way my mum used to cook for me..my mum kila time apo your mum ata kuwekea.”
He went on to say that, the other reason why some mothers in law are controlling is that they are after their son’s wealth.
Add the greed have turned them to be hostile towards their daughters in law.
“Kuna kijana pale yeye dio ana pesa yeye ndio amebarikiwa so mama yake anaona akipata mwanamke mwegine pesa yote itaenda kwao familia innaona pesa itaenda kwa kina msichana anaona afadhali asambaratishe iyo ndoa ubaki peke yako ndio mukule pesa na yeye ,”he stated.
According to Jala’s, the major conflict between a mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law arises from this: Wealth, Love and preserving family’s name.
Here is his take on troublesome mothers in -law