28-year-old Phenny Awiti is living with HIV/AIDs. The mother of three never shies away from sharing her journey of living positively with HIV and uses social media to fight stigma.
Awiti has revealed that she welcomed her third child, Theluji Kwe, through Caesarian section after laboring for 11 hours. She said her baby’s heart rate kept on rising and this was risky to her child forcing her to undergo Cs.
All her three kids are HIV negative.
I labored with my two kids and had them through normal delivery. It was not the best experience but pushing was. Then came Kwe! My cervix opened at 2cms, dilation was perfect! We were given this tablet to ripen the cervix because we really needed baby out, I was tired, Kwe was exhausting me!
He actually came out at 3.6kgs, at 38weeks!
This was around 4pm! Then the labor began and we felt somehow good that the tablet is working and we are making progress,’ she wrote in part.
But the problem was, the more I dilated, the more the heart rate of baby rose!
And I labored in bits! 1cms took 3hours! Not 1hour or less like I was used to with the girls!
It was now 2am, labored for over 11hours!
Baba Bread and my big sis were right there. It felt good, I received enough support physically and emotionally. They helped me walk so baby would “teremka”
But, when nurse kept checking for the baby, my cms were not as good.
We had the best Doctor, God bless his soul! I could write a million and one things about him!
So at 2am, baby’s heart rate is at 190.
The doc decides we go for an emergency CS!
At this point we are all so confused! I have never gone through CS, though stepped in a theatre before. But Doc said at this point baby is distressed and we cannot wait any longer. We get to the theatre, I am dying of pain, I am done!
Finally Kwe is out, all wrapped with the cord round his neck! Almost choked but the cord was removed right in time!
This was God!
I felt good and bad though…
One hand, Baby Kwe was alive and healthy, on the other hand, I felt so useless going through so much pain then end up going for a CS!
But the healing process has been good. The support system especially from Baba Bread has been so unique.
Him changing the diapers and doing everything for baby except breastfeeding him, has been humbling.
I felt like I was being soaked into depression. Felt like I was just from some cage!
Just here to thank God! The Heavens! Encourage any mum who never made it from the wards with their babies alive, that it is well! I almost went through the same experience, and I do not feel any special before God, but just celebrating mums and dads that go or went through something similar.
Labor can be traumatic! There is no guarantee that the child will be birthed normally or you will give birth to one without complications.
This experience, yet again, has intensely humbled me as a human being. On to now raising Kwe free from HIV!
The jovial mother went ahead to give intimate details about her and her lover, who she revealed has been HIV positive for the past 11 years.
We are both HIV Positive!
We discovered we were positive at a time where HIV was considered a national disaster, like it is with the deadly Corona Virus presently!
I discovered I was positive in Form two, during a random HIV Test where the organization that carried out the tests was giving soda and bread.
After testing positive, I told my bff, who told someone who told someone, and the news spread all over high school that I was HIV Positive.
I faced stigma and discrimination, developed opportunistic infections like tuberculosis. I came out publicly in 2017, on social media. And the journey has been incredible!
Meeting her mzungu husband
I met my better half around the same time, but officially started dating around 2018, because I was still struggling with his cultural background. He tested positive in 2009, after being infected by a lady he was dating back at his country.
He has been HIV Positive for 11years, and on ARVs for 11years. I have been positive for 28 years as I was born positive, and on ARVs for 12 years.
We are raising two girls and now a boy free from the virus. It is just a journey for the boy, and we are confident all will turn out well.
Keep sharing, narrating and owning your stories, because if you don’t, no one will!
We are undetectable couple, meaning the virus in our bodies are very minimum, making it easier not to spread the virus to our babies.